What makes one a gentleman?

[snooky]

We were always taught to take our boots of before jumping into bed and to turn of the lights before shagging hhhrrmmph.. so as not to embarras the lass, whom ever. And never to dip ones cigar.

[Big_T_UK]

Tell that to Bill Clinton.

[Deano]

Zing!

[El Catador]

Give girls a little extra respect. Don't be obsequious, but neofeminism has kind of gotten rid of some basic politeness that they'll appreciate, such as opening car/building doors, etc. Don't put every girl on a pedestal (we're all human), but they'll really appreciate it if you do them favors, like giving up your seat on the bus even though they're not carrying anything heavy.

Don't talk about yourself much. On the other hand, girls like to know a little bit about you so they can understand what you are talking about sometimes. In addition to making you a much more desirable conversationalist, it will make you seem more mysterious to not share too much, which many women find attractive. Get a basic idea of what's going on in music, sports, and politics.

Learn to either avoid politics and religion until you know someone better, and learn how to be neutral if someone else brings it up. A simple shrug will do wonders. A gentleman doesn't make other people uncomfortable.

Pay attention to the fact that the world is more threatening for girls: they're automatically targets at night or in bad neighborhoods. Walk her to her door (or car) if at all possible. It doesn't matter how strong she actually is, if you're a girl people will go at you first, whereas by virtue of being male you're safer. If your girl has to park far away from her dorm or home, always offer to drive her to and from your destination. She will appreciate how caring you are about her safety.

Remember to keep doing nice things for your girlfriend when you're around her. If she's carrying something, pick it up when she puts it down and always kindly let her know by saying "oh, let me get that for you", whatever the object is. Remember, being selfish is not attractive. If you are watching television with your girl and you know she likes a particular show or sporting event, leave it there. She will appreciate that little bit of selflessness more than you know.

Show up with a card or a flower and not just for holidays. Expensive and showy doesn't matter, it's the effort. In fact, a rose, a little love note left on her pillow, or a heartfelt kiss will keep any girl happy for days.

If in love, be sure to tell her often that you love her and make it sound meaningful. Be open about yourself to her and share with one another, making sure you laugh and keep things upbeat. Don't be a stiff bore.

There are some things you shouldn't talk to girls about. These include how hot other girls are, or anything at all of that nature. If she's not into sports or video games, you can say a few things but then move on to something she's into. Girls tend to be more interested in books and music than in sports and video games, though there are plenty of exceptions to every rule. It's fine to talk about that stuff with your guy friends, but a gentleman doesn't do that.

Stand up for your girl. Don't go around punching everyone who looks at her sideways, but if anyone's giving her looks or unwanted advances, intervene. Put your arm around her shoulder and move yourselves away, or go to her and speak up for her. The physical contact reassures her and lets the aggressor know that he's got to deal with both of you.

Always have a straight posture (nobody likes a sloucher).

Do not talk down to women ever. It's ok to tease but being cruel is not the way to go. Teasing does not mean calling them vulgar words, however. No matter how joking your tone is, it hurts a woman when a so-called "gentleman" calls them a dirty word.

Well, blow me!
(I nearly wrote 'bugger' - but I think I'm gonna be in enough trouble as it is).

I had no idea you were such an expert on women 'T'.

I do hope you'll forgive me (for no offence is intended), but for some reason I've been under the impression (mistakenly, I'm sure) that your... um... how can I put this delicately... err.. 'proclivities' lay in... another direction?
Not that there is anything wrong with that of course. Whatever team you prefer to.. ahem.. bat for, is fine with me.

Anyhow, now that we've sorted that out... (awkward silence)... I shall... err... look out for more of your "Top Tips on pulling birds".

Keep up the good work!

[Big_T_UK]

Now I am not sure if this is abuse spill over from "another place" or what. Giving you the benefit of the doubt that it is not that then please prey tell, what put you under that impression?

[monkey66]

Now I am not sure if this is abuse spill over from "another place" or what. Giving you the benefit of the doubt that it is not that then please prey tell, what put you under that impression?

In house I think:

http://www.ukcigarforums.com/showthread.php?t=8204&page=2

[El Catador]

Now I am not sure if this is abuse spill over from "another place" or what.

No, not at all I assure you.

Giving you the benefit of the doubt that it is not that then please prey tell, what put you under that impression?

Ahhh... but a 'Gentleman never tells'.

[Big_T_UK]

Oh god, how drunk was I?

[Deano]

Rofl

[JOAO LA PEZ]

Oh god, how drunk was I?

In wine there is truth

[cohibaIV]

Does smacking me biatch up count???

[Lascaux]

May I add:

Being a gentleman does not involve impersonation

[awordinyourear]

I was always told that a gentleman takes his weight on his elbows. (by a very fat lord)

[Sludgie]

I agree with the above comments. I think that the mark of a true gentleman is to always be well turned out in one's dress, to always treat others with respect - particularly the fairer sex, to always give one's time willingly to others and accepting one's position in life, regardless of where one is on the social strata with good grace. If you can do all these things, then you are well on the way to being a gentleman. Money and material goods are not the bottom line - these are merely superficial items that conceal the true man beneath.

[senor_robusto]

after a fair bit of discussion and debate, i wish to bring all your attention again to this:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=E7KeiwlKNMo&feature=related

impossible to impersonate, it would be foolish to imitate, just look at this fine example of a perfect british gentleman and learn from him!!!

impeccably groomed and styled, polite and well mannered (especially towards the fairer sex), confident and cool (not cocky), educated and well spoken, classy yet classless......

yes ladies and GENTLEMEN, we are talking about sir roger moore!!!

all the best,

alex