Advice from your life experience

[Paulie]

Glad to hear you are feeling better about it all now. Just take your time though.

[Boss Hog]

Dear Monkey
Many wise words of experience spoken here that's worth listening too.
Maybe they could also advise me of a rash that I seemed to have developed that can only be seen by using a complex set of mirrors, anyway.
It's a hard thing to deal with at any age, however you have age on your side. The important thing is to not let it consume your life despite how much it may have meant as only your friends will notice your decline.
Dont wish your 20's away as once you get to your late 30's / 40's you'll want to wish them back again!
If I do half the things I did in my first 25 years than I do in the next 25 I'll be most happy.
You should also comfort yourself in the knowledge that you dont have to throw your money away on some cheating tart and treat yourself to some nice "cheer yourself up smokes" instead, maybe even share one with your mate who tipped you off.

PS, I had a word with an expert in this field (my wife's brother's mother in law is Clair Rayner )and she reckons that at your age you should forget her and be out there banging like a barn door in a tornado.

[Monkey]

Lol. Nah i have no real interest in "playing the field" as it were. I also refuse to be defined by my age

I'll go through ups and downs now i guess. Try and spend more time on mates etc. The lovely relationship we had before things started going downhill is a feeling i hope i can have with someone else one day. I guess i should finish this thread already.

Thank you guys. Your advice is of great help, and I will reflect on it through the tough times ahead, especially those words from your teacher Brian. My anger is converted to pity for her and temporary mourning of our loss. I don't need any more hate in my life. So i guess there has been some success already.

But yeah, thanks guys. It means a lot that you'll help a stranger.

[G-man]

But yeah, thanks guys. It means a lot that you'll help a stranger
You my Brother are no stranger To me. A stranger is someone I have yet to meet.
Being we have already been introduced through this forum I consider you a friend!
As do most who frequent this forum. Life has some lessons it teaches us.And usually if we take the time to learn we become better for them. Enough said,get out their cause there is someone in your futher thats going to appricate and love you for who you are. Trust me on this one! Enjoy the time you have with friends cause they are your lifeline to the world.

[hilsand]

You have real life experiences. Those words are really true.

[big_Bear]

Lol. Nah i have no real interest in "playing the field" as it were. I also refuse to be defined by my age

You're a great guy. I know its a very late post but I'm just so impressed by all the help that every one has given.

Monkey, I love what you've said. Someone will quote you on that one day.

Anyway after something that equally devastating happened to me i learned to take it one day at a time.

I also learned not to hate. If you hate you're still caring over someone that hurt you. And that ultimately continues to hurt you carrying that burden with you. Allowing yourself to be indifferent gives you freedom - its hard to achieve. It took me a long time to get where I am, and I'm still in fact I'm not indifferent - But I refuse to allow what happened to me to be a part of me. I haven't forgiven "it" but it doesn't mean that I hate "it".

I refuse to be defined by my age - Monkey

Everyone here is so amazing for having proven to be truly honourable men through your words.