Hi guys,
First, pardon me for bringing my personal issue to the forum.
Yesterday, I broke up with my partner of 4 years, because she recently had begun sleeping with another man.
I'm absolutely destroyed, as I have poured every part of my emotional self into that relationship, and have done such a huge amount, been such a supportive partner to her. Without meaning to sound up my own arse, in comparison to most guys my age, I have been a fucking amazing partner to have.
Anyway, we've had a rough time recently, and the result appears to be this. I'm seething that she didn't think it'd be just a better idea to leave me before she went off with another guy.
So my point of posting this here. I run a forum where I am given much support, which I appreciate enourmously. However pretty much everyone is very young.
Obviously, this forum has a wide range in terms of age group, with plenty of you old enough to have considerable life experience (please take that as a compliment on my part). Perhaps some of you could offer me advice on how a situation like this has turned out for the best? How has such a hurtful experience been the best thing for you in the long term?
Again, sorry for this, but I'm desperate to put a positive spin on this. I already know that for many other reasons than this cock-up, i am far better of without her. If I'd have had the balls, I would have finished it 2 years ago when I first felt things were going downhill, but I am a very solitary person, and the prospect of how lonely I'm about to become again scares me enourmously. I'd just appreciate any positive words you can give me, help fix me.
Thanks,
Tom
First, pardon me for bringing my personal issue to the forum.
Yesterday, I broke up with my partner of 4 years, because she recently had begun sleeping with another man.
I'm absolutely destroyed, as I have poured every part of my emotional self into that relationship, and have done such a huge amount, been such a supportive partner to her. Without meaning to sound up my own arse, in comparison to most guys my age, I have been a fucking amazing partner to have.
Anyway, we've had a rough time recently, and the result appears to be this. I'm seething that she didn't think it'd be just a better idea to leave me before she went off with another guy.
So my point of posting this here. I run a forum where I am given much support, which I appreciate enourmously. However pretty much everyone is very young.
Obviously, this forum has a wide range in terms of age group, with plenty of you old enough to have considerable life experience (please take that as a compliment on my part). Perhaps some of you could offer me advice on how a situation like this has turned out for the best? How has such a hurtful experience been the best thing for you in the long term?
Again, sorry for this, but I'm desperate to put a positive spin on this. I already know that for many other reasons than this cock-up, i am far better of without her. If I'd have had the balls, I would have finished it 2 years ago when I first felt things were going downhill, but I am a very solitary person, and the prospect of how lonely I'm about to become again scares me enourmously. I'd just appreciate any positive words you can give me, help fix me.
Thanks,
Tom
Comment