Separation

[JoeyGunz]

Hopefully she open's up to the idea of help Simon, I have been through similar with my Mrs' suffering with Anxiety & Depression now on Sertraline and thing's are good again, I found it hard to get my head round having not really dealt with it to the extent she was but how much difference one little tablet a day can make is incredible.

[Simon Bolivar]

Cheers Joey, aye, I know Sertaline & have several patients on it; my only concern is some have been on it for yrs - some 10yrs! I would hope a short course of 4-6months would have be a big help, as she has no previous history of depression. Glad your wife sought help in the end, I'll be doing my best to make sure Mrs B does so in due course.

[Kickback]

Lol at some of the comments.
50 is age and not dress size, numbers or anything else.
Will certainly be interesting going dating again at my age. No such thing as the Internet when I was out on the pull.
Sad to hear you're situation is worse Simon. Fingers cross for you both especially as she sounds interested in staying together.

[oskihen]

No doubt there will be a huge number of 45 to 50ish ladies out there available who have just walked out on there marriages looking for a new start. It's a crazy world. As they say the grass is always greener.

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[ha_banos]

This is a very sobering thread. Good luck to anyone going through difficulties.

[Simon Bolivar]

No doubt there will be a huge number of 45 to 50ish ladies out there available who have just walked out on there marriages looking for a new start. It's a crazy world. As they say the grass is always greener.

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Indeed James, just swapping one set of problems for another. And you can re-marry but you can't replace the yrs of shared memories. If the love is still there despite the problems that lead to the marital crisis leading to a possible break up, then it's surely worth fighting for. I know I could cope on my own (I didn't marry until I was 31yo, quite late in those days), smoke & go fishing as often I liked but at the end of the day not having someone to come home too, to tell my tales too & then go out the next day & do something more important together, would be an emptier life & one I'd rather avoid if possible. I took my vows 'for richer for poorer, in sickness & in health for better or worse'. As it happens we have both been pretty lucky on all three counts so far, time to be tested a little more.

[jerryr]

Separation

In the words of one of the other members of this forum Plenty of fish.

When my marriage fell apart I was astounded at how many single 45 -55 year old eager women there are out there. If I?d have known it earlier maybe the marriage wouldn?t have lasted as long. However one lesson I learned why remarry, been there once not going there again. I?ve been in a happy relationship for 2-3 years now, we each maintain our own houses and spend 3- 4 days a week together at one or other house, but we still have our own space.


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[Kickback]

Good to know there are some out there. I guess the concern is the ratio of nice to nutters is much less than the first time round.

[Simon Bolivar]

In the words of one of the other members of this forum Plenty of fish.

When my marriage fell apart I was astounded at how many single 45 -55 year old eager women there are out there. If I?d have known it earlier maybe the marriage wouldn?t have lasted as long. However one lesson I learned why remarry, been there once not going there again. I?ve been in a happy relationship for 2-3 years now, we each maintain our own houses and spend 3- 4 days a week together at one or other house, but we still have our own space.


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Agreed Jerry, always said I wouldn't marry again (unlikely to be as lucky for a start) but a relationship like your gives you both space & benefits, enjoy!

[PeeJay]

Agreed Jerry, always said I wouldn't marry again (unlikely to be as lucky for a start) but a relationship like your gives you both space & benefits, enjoy!

Same here Simon, my wife could never be replaced.

[puff o'wind]

My wife always tells me to remarry if anything should happen to her. I always say no chance. Just me and my dog and the memories. Irreplaceble.

BUT...ive had a few mates who's wives have walked out -its not that uncommon - and after playing the field for a few years they've all settled down again. So maybe a companion is Desirable.

[Kickback]

For me it will depend if I ever find someone else I want to stay the rest of my life with. Marriage gives more financial stability (pension, life assurance etc) but will have to be sure. It's not a nice feeling being told you're no longer wanted by somone who you thought you'd spend the rest of your days with. Especially when it means you won't have the same daily close relationship with your children.

[jerryr]

For me it will depend if I ever find someone else I want to stay the rest of my life with. Marriage gives more financial stability (pension, life assurance etc) but will have to be sure. It's not a nice feeling being told you're no longer wanted by somone who you thought you'd spend the rest of your days with. Especially when it means you won't have the same daily close relationship with your children.

Marriage only gives financial stability as long as the marriage is stable, when it goes tits up it becomes what?s hers is hers and what?s yours is hers. The only way you can get financial security it hide it from the other half and when it comes down to it find a good lawyer.


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[grumpybaldy]

Same here Simon, my wife could never be replaced.

Is she watching over you shoulder again?

[Stevieboy]

Is she watching over you shoulder again?