Cheater

[G-man]

Over this past weekend I learned that 1 of my best friends(BOTL) as well had many affairs and just got caught, His wife is very sick over this and I feel betrayed by him. Now come the million and one questions. My friend and I did trips to miami to little Havana for boys weekends. Smoke cigars drink Espresso and enjoy cuban culture.Now my wife is Questioning me as what happens on boys nites and weekends.Thank god im more in love with her now more then ever. Im so pissed at my buddy for putting me in that position and for being a cheater. Your thoughts

[bnelly]

1) He's one of your best friends. Stand by him.

2) Your wife doesn't trust you. Her fault, not yours or his.

Amateur Psychology from Dr. Neill

[Simon-JG-hr]

Tricky situation, one that I certainly don't envy.

If he's one of your best friends, then I'm sure you'll be able to work it out, but make sure you give him a damn good kick up the arse for the position he put you in. (And make sure he buys you a nice box of something good as an apology ).

[Boss Hog]

I take it you had no idea he was up to that, was he doing it while you were both away?
Dont know how long you've been married but tell your wife she should have known you long enough to know deep down that there's no reason or need for me to ever do something that could jepardize our marrige in even the smallest way and although I dont condone what my friend did he is still my best friend. Also tell your friend that if he wants to go off and do that stuff that's fine, just dont do it in front of you.

On the other hand.......

You could always own up to your wife and say,
"Your right! I went away on "boys weekends" with and that's just what we had, as many as we could and where ever we could. Even threw in a couple of those asian ladyboys and a shaved gerbil on more than occasion.
Dont even mention the narcotics, cos there be no way his fist would have ever fitted without a good nose up of Columbian Marching Powder first."

Let me know how you get on!

[G-man]

Its not that wifie doesn't trust me its prying for info. Didn't have any idea my friend was like that. Dudes if U all could see my friends wife ! Easy 8 out of 10. Drop dead beautiful and well put together! What sucks is they are seperated now and we all use to party and go to high end affairs together. He and his wife hopefully will work this out for their childrens sake.
As my crazy cousin Tony says Its all pink inside.And 15 minutes of pleasure is not worth a lifetime of runation.
And why get married their all sluts.
48 and still a player and dam good 1

[Mr Moore]

Hard to say G-man.
Its down to him what he does, all you can do is take him for what he is, a mate, its down to his Mrs and him to sort that out.
Your a mate to him and vice versa.

[deltawhisky]

I can only sympathise with what you're going through. It's a tough one to crack this one, but I'd agree with previous posts and say, if he's a top friend of yours, give him a proverbial kick up the backside. These things take time. Deltawhisky

[The Smoker]

Horrible situation for sure.

The thing which always puzzles me about cheating is how the cheater manages to keep things concealed from his partner. Your friend obviously has no respect for his wife, as this was not a one-off incident, but a long history of dishonesty and unfaithfulness. But how could she not know? I suppose his wife would argue that she trusted him, so didn't need to check up on what he was doing every five minutes. But at some point the line must be crossed between trust and credulity.

As a friend it is probably more difficult to tell, but then that depends on the type of friendship you have. In a close friendship where two people rely on each other for support, advice, and confidence, it would be impossible to conceal one's infidelity.

I think bnelly is right about the trust issue though. If your own relationship is good then there is no reason for your wife to suspect anything. On the other hand, that's what your friend's wife probably thought! Why don't you just own up now and face the music?


UPDATE: Damn, Boss Hog already stole my punchline!

[Cohiba Fan]

Dudes if U all could see my friends wife ! Easy 8 out of 10. Drop dead beautiful and well put together!

Post a picture!

Seriously though, I can see why your wife would pry for information. Even if she does trust you, she's still going to want you to dish the dirt on your pal. Difficult situation to be in, but not much you could have done about it.

Post that picture!

[Drewmidorn]

"All women are nosey, and evil down to their little black hearts, you can't judge them for it, they're genetically predisposed to it.... however you have to get your retaliation in first." Discuss.

There... that should open the flood gates.

[monkey66]

My missus will see a scenario on TV and ask me if I have done it!!!

Try to find an example where one of her friends has been less than perfect and use that as leverage to maintain some kind of moral high ground.